Greetings, all and Happy 4th of July Weekend! Hopefully it is a time for everyone to take an opportunity to rest from the intense heat, spend time with loved ones, cook and eat, drink and visit. Most of all, I hope it is a time for everyone to reflect on the amazing benefit we have all had of living in the United States. We are truly blessed. I’ll be headed up to the Lake to see a whole slew of family. At the house will be: my grandmother, my parents, my brother, my sister, my wife and our two (three when you count the baby in her belly) children, my sister-in-law and her boyfriend. Its going to be a full house! So full, in fact, that half of us will be driving to and from Richmond and Lake Anna on a daily basis as my parents house cannot fit the whole group of us. I’m so excited to be around all of the people I love so dearly, yet rarely get the opportunity to spend time with. My parents live in Fairfax, Va. My sister and brother live in Charlotte. My sister-in-law and her boyfriend live in New York City and my grandmother lives up near Appleton, Wisconsin. Having known of this plan for some time, I’ve had plenty of opportunity to envision the fun we’ll have. Boating, fireworks, the jet ski, crabs, and lounging on the dock. The anticipation of the event is killing me!
That got me to thinking about my quotient of happiness. It seems, at times, that I’m happier in the anticipation than I am at the event. Almost as though anything that crosses wires with the image I had constructed in my head brings my happiness down a notch or two. I think I’ve always faced this challenge. I’ve always had problems dealing with events not matching my intentions for them. It has created issues in the past, and I’ve resolved not to let that happen in the future. What are some of the ways I plan on doing this? I’ve thought about that. Here are a few of them. First, I am going to start by not disturbing myself from dreaming of the endless possibilities we’ll encounter. I’m not going to sap my happiness of anticipation by not setting hopes for myself. Second, when I get to the lake, I am going to wipe my goals away through positive thought and earnest investment in the present. I want to allow for the happiness to unfold before me. I want for speedbumps to be just that; speedbumps. I want to interact with those I rarely see with the best me I can possibly muster. Most importantly, I want to look back on the weekend and recall how awesome that time was, even if it wasn’t necessarily what I had envisioned.
Although it carries with it many advantages, one of my challenges can be my strong personality. It steers me well in much of my life. I am a focused and passionate individual, and I can articulate my wants and plans, but the ability I have to positively influence matters seems to be tethered to an absolute zero value. That is to say that my personality has the potential to steer things in the exact opposite way, with the same degree of intensity or impact. Understanding that about myself, my plan is to check in with myself more frequently during the weekend. To gauge my emotions, determine what corrective action I need to take, and do so within myself, prior to taking others down that road with me. This plan gives me great happiness! I can already feel a different vibe within myself than I have in similar events in the past. I am grateful for the frame of mind the Edison Project has provided me. It has pushed me to search for my means of happiness; and in so doing has highlighted the ways I might increase that feeling across the board. Many times, simply by removing the negative, we can experience more of the positive. That is my goal for happiness this weekend; to experience happiness as presently as I can by setting my often minute desires aside, checking in with myself, and removing the negative. The rest of the trip will take care of itself. I look forward to touching base on my success with this plan at the Holiday’s end!
Yours in the Pursuit of Happiness,